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em's avatar

i relate to all of this so much, signed by a fellow sapphic who's also on the aro/ace spectrum <3

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eve's avatar

<333

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mannie <3's avatar

i really relate to your words! the weird feeling that sex doesn’t really feel right but at the same time everyone expect it about you? i sometimes wonder what is wrong or why can’t i be sure about my attraction. i also really relate to the part of discovering your first women/women relationship where everything seems perfect but there is still this sensation (?) that isn’t right ? we’re never ready for discovering new layer everyday

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eve's avatar

yes! this sums it up perfectly. thank you for reading!

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ella bella's avatar

this was so beautifully written and i see so many parts of my own queerness and struggles with coming-out to others in this. i am very much out to all my friends, but to my family i am a lonely teenager who doesn’t ever hang out with boys. a small fraction of me feels mildly better about it from reading this so thank you 🫶

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eve's avatar

thank you so much for reading! this is so sweet

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Sidney Gardner's avatar

Eve this was a stunning read. The way you articulate things is so poetic while also being analytical. A beautiful thing to behold, truly.

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eve's avatar

wow, what a lovely compliment. thank you so much for reading!

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Delise Fantome's avatar

That part about societal expectations and figuring out how your messy reality can fit with it is So True, as a fellow aro/ace. Wonderful work!

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eve's avatar

thank you for reading!

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Evelyn's avatar

the quote “Suddenly, that life that felt too big at sixteen feels like it’s slipped through your fingers entirely. No longer is it a mere oversized blazer awaiting an inevitable growth spurt, but rather a celestial body beyond the grasp of mortal hands.” is so beautiful to me- i love this post so much!

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eve's avatar

thank you so much!

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Anjola <3's avatar

this was art, you describe the feeling of discovering that extra layer so accurately. I feel seen <3

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Kristen Taylor Walsh's avatar

i’m very glad i came across this post, even outside of struggling with sexual identity it really speaks to an overarching feeling of realizing that everything you thought was true may not be, and how devastating and difficult it is to be looking at the pieces of that shattered reality without any idea how to put them back together

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eve's avatar

yes! growing up is so difficult. most of my teenage years were spent trying to reconcile my expectations of ageing with the difficult reality. thank you for reading!

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eve's avatar

I’m so sorry to hear about your experience. On the one hand, I’m so pleased that this piece resonated with so many people, but I also understand that means that everyone has felt that same sense of unease. Thank you for commenting🫶

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